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Working With Men to
Stop The Cycle of Domestic Abuse.
WELCOME TO
Ebonista MAN
Ebonista’s core service is supporting women and their children impacted by domestic abuse and sexual violence.
Since our launch in April 2021 we have provided emotional and practical support to hundreds of women on their journey to a life free from abuse.
However, we have realised that working with men that have perpetrated abuse at the earliest stage is essential to helping families, including partners and children to find that freedom.
“Whilst other services may be reluctant to work with men for various reasons we actually relish the challenge of being able to challenge their mindsets with the hope of change and positive outcomes.”
There is a gap that needs to be filled.
It is aimed at men who want help in changing their behaviours to become better partners and fathers.
Changing Behaviour
It examines tactics used by male perpetrators, challenges beliefs of male superiority and the effects of domestic abuse on children.
Challenging Beliefs
The workshop delivers a short, sharp shock into the reality of abusive tactics, its impact on women, children and the wider society. If the perpetrator is still in a relationship we can invite his victim to attend Freedom for women and offer her person centred support including safety and support planning.
Conveying Tactics
It is very interactive combining role play, insightful videos, quizzes and group discussion that is culturally sensitive.
Combining Methods
Core Aims
Our 3 day, in person workshop is based on the Freedom Programme for Men written by Pat Craven. We appreciate this programme was written many years ago however the fundamental reason of using abusive tactics to gain and maintain power and control hasn’t changed.
Results: Our Work With Men So Far
“I see how there is so much of it in our society and want to do the course again for the simple fact I feel like I missed some key information due to my lack of self responsibility”
“I am thinking more clearly and seeing a change in my behaviour”
“It’s given me the opportunity to reflect on my behaviour and there is no doubt this has helped me to change my behaviour”
“I never really considered how my behaviour affected my ex or my children. I thought she was just over reacting".
More Impact...
“This workshop has challenged my beliefs of normality - I see how my behaviour was normalised.”
Adam ~ 52
“It was an eye opener to hear from a victim's perspective."
Liam ~ 30
“I realise I can’t blame my drug addiction for my behaviour. I know it makes my paranoia and reactions worse but honestly I can only blame my poor choices.”
James ~ 27
“I thought this was gonna be a waste of time and only attended because Social Services told me to but wow - this has completely changed my attitude towards women.”
Ethan ~ 18
“My children deserve the best version of me - I never understood how I was acting after me and my ex broke up affected their home.”
Noah ~ 45
“More men need to go on this workshop. It’s the first time I actually felt able to talk about my feelings without judgement even though I wasn’t a great partner.”
William ~ 60
“I usually hate role play and group stuff but Shenel made us feel completely at ease whilst not taking any s**t.”
Benjamin ~ 29
“I am keeping this letter to my daughter because it won’t be long before she starts getting interested in boys and I want to teach her about these red flags.”
Daniel ~ 28